Daughter Sexually Assaulted/Abused, Yet Mother Fails to Back Her Up or Ensure Safety
In a world where mothers are often the first source of identity and role modeling, it can be devastating when they overlook or ignore instances of sexual abuse or assault. This unfortunate reality is all too common, especially for daughters who are often taught to prioritize pleasing others and suppressing their sexuality, a pattern known as the "Good Daughter Syndrome."
This syndrome, as described by psychotherapist Katherine Fabrizio, is a pattern of behaviour where daughters suppress their sexuality and feelings of guilt due to messages from their mothers. Over 30 years of counseling women in psychotherapy, Fabrizio has observed that many women who were sexually abused or assaulted keep these incidents secret due to feelings of guilt.
When women do speak up about such experiences, they sometimes face a lack of belief or protection from their mothers. This lack of support can set the daughter up for a lifetime of internal conflict, making it difficult for them to trust men and make decisions about relationships.
Susan Forward, a renowned writer, has addressed this issue in her self-help book, focusing on the role of the "good daughter" in dealing with narcissistic or demanding mothers and issues of sexual abuse.
Women, especially those in economically disadvantaged positions, may feel they need to stay in a harmful relationship due to a lack of economic power. However, it's important to remember that believing a daughter who speaks up about sexual abuse or assault is crucial. Mothers should stand up for, believe, and protect their daughters.
Mothers should also be mindful of the mixed messages they send about sexuality. Statements like "look good but not too good" can be confusing and potentially damaging. Instead, mothers should ask thoughtful, caring questions when their daughters speak up about such experiences.
The time is now for mothers to stand up against sexual abuse or assault. If you suspect that you or someone you know may be suffering from the Good Daughter Syndrome, there is help available. [Link to find out if you suffer from the Good Daughter Syndrome]
Lastly, it's essential for mothers to ensure their daughters do not feel alone or to blame for such experiences. Mothers should remember that they have a crucial role in protecting their daughters from sexual abuse or assault. Let's work together to create a safer world for our daughters.
