Distinct Characteristics of a Highly Sensitive Person versus Borderline Personality Disorder
In a recent development, a German couple has been seeking help from a therapist to understand the behaviour of one partner, Dan's wife. Dan believes his wife exhibits symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), based on her erratic behaviour, heightened sensitivity, occasional outbursts, and mood swings.
However, upon meeting Dan's wife, the therapist is not convinced of Dan's perspective. The therapist explains that a BPD diagnosis requires meeting certain criteria, and Dan's wife did not meet them in full. Another possibility considered is that she might be a highly sensitive person (HSP).
Both BPD and HSP individuals share some similarities, such as heightened sensitivity and an acute awareness of their own emotions and the emotional energy of others. However, they also have distinct differences. For instance, BPD individuals have the ability to dissociate during traumatic events, while HSP individuals shutdown, have a hard time moving forward, and have difficulty forgiving.
Depression is another area where the two differ. BPD individuals struggle with depressive thoughts almost daily and tend to self-harm, act impulsive, or engage in high risk behavior, while HSP individuals tend to be more cautious. Mood swings are also a common trait, but BPD individuals tend to express themselves in any and all environments, while HSP individuals tend to be more withdrawn in front of others and reserve their mood swings for a few safe people.
One of the most significant differences lies in the fear of abandonment. BPD individuals have an intense and pervasive fear of abandonment that affects their decision making, unlike HSP individuals who might react emotionally but do not propel themselves into self-destructive behaviors.
Love relationships also offer insights into the differences between the two. HSP individuals tend to be selfish at the beginning of a relationship, withholding large parts of themselves until they feel safe, while BPD individuals dive right in without hesitation.
The discussion of symptoms did not confirm a BPD diagnosis for Dan's wife, but it opened up the possibility of her being an HSP. After being shown the differences between BPD and HSP, Dan eventually came around to agreeing with the HSP diagnosis.
It is important to note that self-diagnosis, even with the help of online resources, is not recommended. A person should be properly evaluated by a licensed professional to ensure an accurate diagnosis.
The increasing number of people seeking therapists for suspected BPD in Germany suggests growing awareness, recognition, and possibly more diagnoses of BPD. This disorder is often linked to traumatic childhood experiences, genetic factors, and brain function differences that cause intense emotional instability.
In conclusion, while BPD and HSP share some similarities, they also have distinct differences that are crucial in understanding and diagnosing these conditions. It is essential to approach such matters with care, understanding, and the guidance of a professional.
