Fundamental signs suggesting a potentially harmful relationship
In today's dating scene, it's essential to understand the signs of emotional and psychological abuse. These forms of abuse can be subtle and may not always be immediately apparent, but they can have a profound impact on an individual's well-being.
One common sign of emotional and psychological abuse is hot-and-cold behaviour, such as love bombing followed by withdrawal of affection. Love bombing involves excessive attention and affection, creating a sense of emotional entanglement that makes it difficult to leave the relationship. Conversely, the withdrawal of affection serves to control and manipulate the partner.
Manipulative behaviours are also prevalent in abusive relationships. For instance, a partner may fake tears and ask to be taken back after attempting to leave the relationship. This tactic is designed to instil guilt and make the other party doubt their decision to end the relationship.
Another sign of emotional and psychological abuse is gaslighting, where a partner may make you question your own sanity or reality. This can lead to losing touch with friends, making it easier for the abusive partner to exert control over you.
Consistently lying or giving excuses may indicate that someone is hiding something from you, potentially engaging in unfaithful activities. If you find yourself constantly apologising for your partner's faults during arguments, there may be deeper issues at play.
In a toxic or abusive relationship, a partner may keep a scorecard of the other's past mistakes instead of taking accountability for their actions. This behaviour can create a sense of guilt and make it difficult for the victim to leave the relationship.
Physical abuse is another form of abuse that should never be tolerated. Being shouted at or physically abused for small mistakes or having a partner raise their hand on you is a clear sign of emotional and physical abuse.
Isolating you from friends and family by raising concerns about the people you spend time with and using different tactics to limit your social circle is a form of emotional abuse known as gaslighting.
The Centre for the Study of Culture and Society (CSCS) has conducted an investigation into the evolving dating scene in India, showing a shift beyond traditional 'relationships', with the emergence of 'fanship' and 'nanoship' (casual, short-term relationships). However, it's crucial to remember that abuse can occur in any type of relationship, regardless of its form or length.
Walking away from toxic relationships can be difficult, but relying on trusted friends can help provide perspective and support during the process. It's important to remember that it's never too late to seek help and take steps towards a healthier, happier life.
