Holiday Season Spoiled by Emotional Manipulator in Your Sphere
In the lead-up to special days like Christmas or birthdays, it's not uncommon for individuals with narcissistic personality disorder to exhibit challenging behaviour. These individuals, often characterised by blame-shifting and projection, may struggle to own their poor behaviours.
Understanding the dynamic of projection and introjection can help you protect yourself. Narcissists often project their own shortcomings onto others, casting blame and causing distress. On the other hand, introjection refers to the process by which they absorb negative external perceptions, making it crucial to set strong boundaries to withstand their negativity.
Trusting yourself and honouring your feelings is essential. It's important to remember that you can change your own feelings and attitude, not the other person. You are a good and amazing person, regardless of your loved one's problems.
During the holidays, narcissists may experience extreme anxiety that needs to be ameliorated by changing their external circumstances, often focusing on the victim. They may perceive normal individuals' imperfections as a narcissistic injury during a special day, leading to abusive tactics such as seasonal devalue and discard.
It's not your fault that your loved one is behaving this way. Narcissists have no empathy and cannot handle intimate relationships, compelled to destroy them. They may not give gifts during the holidays, citing perceived infractions by the victim, or become a judge, jury, and prosecuting attorney, making it difficult for the victim to change or appease.
In such situations, it's crucial to maintain strong boundaries. Setting boundaries can help protect you from personal damage and prevent you from being drawn into their destructive behaviours. Don't allow your loved one to make you feel insane as well.
Unfortunately, nothing seems to work in changing the narcissist's behaviour during the holidays. However, it's essential to remember that it's not your responsibility to fix them. Instead, focus on taking care of yourself and seeking support from trusted friends, family, or professional resources.
By understanding the dynamics of narcissistic behaviour and taking steps to protect yourself, you can navigate the holiday season with resilience and grace.
