Strategies Narcissists Employ to Undermine Self-Esteem
In the world we live in, it's essential to understand the complexities of human behaviour, especially those that can negatively impact our relationships. One such behaviour is narcissism, a personality trait characterised by an inflated sense of self-importance and a deep need for admiration.
Research by author Christian Wrobel has shed light on the malignant aspects of narcissism, along with other personality traits such as sadism and psychopathy. Narcissists, according to Wrobel's findings, are willing to claim credit for another person's work to elevate their own status. They can also falsely and malevolently criticize others to create an illusion of expertise.
Narcissists are known for their ability to play the victim when called out, feigning helplessness to extract sympathy. They can instill self-doubt by playing on insecurities and weak points, or by invalidating feelings, memories, or experiences. Narcissists often blame and project their own shortcomings onto others, never taking responsibility for their wrongdoings or negative character traits.
Narcissists feel entitled and believe they are better or more important than others. They exhibit a false sense of self-confidence, often to appear superior or as experts. This need to constantly feel better than others can lead to comparisons with others and attempts to make others feel worse, elevating themselves in the process.
When feeling underappreciated, mistreated, or threatened, narcissists can enter a state of narcissistic rage. This can manifest as direct attacks or indirect sabotage. Narcissists can also manipulate individuals with self-doubt and gaslight them.
It's important to note that narcissists have a low and fragile sense of self-esteem despite their outward appearance of confidence. They use various tactics to maintain this facade, often acting entitled to make others feel worse, often by mistreating service workers or using money, power, sex appeal, social status, etc. to demean and abuse others.
Understanding narcissistic behaviour is crucial in navigating interpersonal relationships. Recognising the signs of narcissism can help protect oneself from harmful interactions and provide a foundation for healthier, more balanced relationships.
