Unyielding Preferences of Self-Absorbed Individuals
In relationships with narcissists, it's common to encounter a web of arbitrary rules that seem to change as frequently as the wind. These rules, often imposed to assert control and maintain an illusion of superiority, can have a profound impact on the mental health and well-being of the individuals involved.
Narcissists may believe themselves to be in a superior position, akin to a deity when making rules for others. This sense of superiority and the belief that they know best is a key reason for their arbitrary rule-making. Examples of such rules can range from specific dress codes, eating habits, and time management, to more subtle control over communication methods, such as preferring calls over texts or the opposite.
Narcissists also have a tendency to control various aspects of a person's life, including how they dress, eat, move, and spend their time. Breaking these rules can result in punishment, which may take the form of scolding, lecturing, ignoring, or even temporary banishment.
The constant fear of breaking these rules can lead to a state of constant anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder. Narcissists often need to feel victimized and justified in punishing those who break their rules, and they may go to great lengths to make their victims appear bad in their eyes.
If you find yourself in a situation where a narcissist is controlling your life with arbitrary rules, it's crucial to take back your power. The author of this article offers a free monthly newsletter on the psychology of abuse, which you can subscribe to at [email protected].
It's important to remember that these rules are not set in stone and are often used as a means of control. By refusing to follow arbitrary rules, you can begin to reclaim your independence and regain control of your life.
For more information on narcissistic patterns, you can watch the YouTube video titled "9 Narcissistic Patterns You Can't Afford To Get Pulled Into", which can be found at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pCHtMSg39Eg. This video provides valuable insights into understanding and dealing with narcissistic rule-making.
